Dear
Quitters Friend . . .


Every quitter faces rough moments dealing with other people. This page gives you some tips.

Dear Quitter's Friend,

I tried to quit a few times before and went to back to smoking. This time I want to quit for good. But, my friends keep saying "you'll never make it, always go back." What can I say to them?
-This time for Good

Dear This Time for Good:

Tell your friends that you may have gone back before. But, as with most things, "practice makes perfect." Experts say that most quitters need to try a few times before they quit for good. This time you'll make it.

Dear Quitter's Friend,

I want to stop smoking and have a set Quit Day. My problem is taht my wife smokes and so do a lot of my friends. Without being rude, how can I say "no" when they offer me a cigarette?
-Tactless Tom

Dear Tactless Tom:

There are many ways to say "no" without being rude or making others feel bad. You are saying "no" to help yourself, not to offend others. A simple "No thanks" may be enough.

Dear Quitter's Friend,

I quit smoking a few days ago. I'm doing all right, except that I've been more tense than usual. My husband went out last night and bought me a pack of cigarettes. He says he wants his "sweet" wife back. What can I do?
-Not So Sweet Anymore

Dear Not So Sweet Anymore:

Some people find that they are more tense when they first quit smoking. But "this too shall pass." Soon you'll be back to your "sweet" self. Ask your husband to be patient. The extra years of being happy withyou are worth a few days of dealing with your tension.

Dear Quitter's Friend,

Help! I've wanted to quit for awhile, but last week I finally did it. My problem is the guys at work. They all smoke and keep offering me a smoke. They keep telling me just one won't hurt. I don't want to lose my friends, but I've come too far to go back... any ideas?
-Sociable Sam

Dear Sociable Sam:

It can be tough to be around smokers when you're trying to quit. You might say, "just because I quit doesn't mean that you have to. But, I don't want a cigarette." Hopefully, your friends will come around. Don't be fooled. Just one cigarette can hurt.



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